On making decisions
At the late part of May 2009, I've made one very important decision in my life.
I've been praying for the heavens to show me some signs for a long time as to what I should do but I hadn't receive any conclusive answer.
I was wondering why I didn't receive any hint or guidance in my prayers despite of my being a nice and prayerful person. I had been waiting for months and months without any results.
I wanna let go of a thing in my life, but was afraid that it might have bad effects on me or I might make the wrong choice. I was afraid to get out of my comfort zone although I was no longer happy with it. Until such time that I could not take anymore what was happening to me and I decided to take the matter in my hands.
As I looked back, the reason why God withheld things or knowledge from me was for the main reason that he wanted me to grow and learn by using my free agency. I better understood now that it is contrary to the designs of a wise God to do something that he knows we can do for ourselves.
When I finally decided, I consulted with him again. Alas this time, I heard him as if saying , "whatever you do, you can count on my support."
My friends, at the crossroads of life, it is inevitable not to make decisions. Most often, we always think more of security, good results or outcome. If the future is somewhat uncertain, we may feel hesitant, awkward, not willing to decide or move out of the present situation we may be at the moment.
Let me give you some tips to better decide
1. Study the matter first in your mind and the alternatives ( maybe even make a SWOT analysis)
2. See what others have done ( Are they successful or not?)
3. Assess your readiness for the consequences of your acts? (coping ability)
4. Ask for a second or third opinion from wise or successful people (preferably someone you trust , someone who cares for you)
5. Ask God
If the thought keeps pressing on your mind, even following you in your sleep, cause your bosom to burn or gives you a feeling of peace…. then it's a decision worth pursuing.
Being a single parent , the decision for me to shift from being employed to self employed or freelancer is somewhat an idea for others to raise brows, considering the security of having a regular employer. But as I weighed down my options, advise of friends and past experiences of others, I said "I could not know if I wouldn't try." The good thing was, before I left the office, I haven't burned bridges, so if anything runs amiss, I can always come back.
But considering the effort I am putting now in my writing career, I think, this is what I like doing best. I am treating it as a business (working eight hours or more per day), and I believe that with a little more effort, a little more networking, and a lot of prayers, I'll be able to land the dream job I want - and that is a work-at-home mom or WAHM.
“If we don’t chase after our dream, it will never come to us
If we don’t act – the answer is always no
If we don’t push our way forward, we’ll always be at the same situation.”
Thank you for reading. “May we always choose the right.”
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
On receiving counsel from the mouth of babes...
One day, feeling grumpy about my life in general, I came home sad from the office and found my son Van waiting for me.
After I asked him regarding his activities for the day, I went inside my room while he continued watching television.
As I sat on the bed feeling dejected, he entered the room and saw me in a pensive mood.
Embracing me, he asked, "what's the matter mama? Office problem again?"
I didn't answer but only stared at him. Young as he was, barely eleven years old, he spoke to me with all the faith and assurance as reflected in his eyes and the inflection of his voice, the words,
"Don't worry mama, just be patient...time will change for the better you'll see."
His words made me smile. I remembered that it was one of the quotations he submitted in his school assignments and he used it to me at that moment. Very timely and impressive indeed.
Of a truth, I really wished that my present work condition would improve, but I just didn't know when and how. And I felt depressed by merely thinking about it.
What he told me that day was like an antidote for my sinking self esteem and wounded soul.
Yes, children may be housed in their small bodies, innocent, defenseless, and fragile, but some of them have superior wisdom and understanding...that would sometimes cause us adults to marvel or shrink in shame…
Though lacking in perspective, worldly experience and the ability for self expression , they can utter or mumble words that are angelic in nature, comforting and also logical -maybe even the exact ideas we need to provide solutions to the various problems we encounter.
That's why we need to spend sometime to talk to our kids. They have innate goodness, optimism and faith in them that can arm us or help us find the cheer and consolation we need.
So by the time you might need some simple tips, simple solutions to life's complex problems - why not talk to your kids...listen to the way they view things ... then you'll see my point. Lastly, don't forget to give them treats for being of help.
Thank you for reading and have a nice day.
After I asked him regarding his activities for the day, I went inside my room while he continued watching television.
As I sat on the bed feeling dejected, he entered the room and saw me in a pensive mood.
Embracing me, he asked, "what's the matter mama? Office problem again?"
I didn't answer but only stared at him. Young as he was, barely eleven years old, he spoke to me with all the faith and assurance as reflected in his eyes and the inflection of his voice, the words,
"Don't worry mama, just be patient...time will change for the better you'll see."
His words made me smile. I remembered that it was one of the quotations he submitted in his school assignments and he used it to me at that moment. Very timely and impressive indeed.
Of a truth, I really wished that my present work condition would improve, but I just didn't know when and how. And I felt depressed by merely thinking about it.
What he told me that day was like an antidote for my sinking self esteem and wounded soul.
Yes, children may be housed in their small bodies, innocent, defenseless, and fragile, but some of them have superior wisdom and understanding...that would sometimes cause us adults to marvel or shrink in shame…
Though lacking in perspective, worldly experience and the ability for self expression , they can utter or mumble words that are angelic in nature, comforting and also logical -maybe even the exact ideas we need to provide solutions to the various problems we encounter.
That's why we need to spend sometime to talk to our kids. They have innate goodness, optimism and faith in them that can arm us or help us find the cheer and consolation we need.
So by the time you might need some simple tips, simple solutions to life's complex problems - why not talk to your kids...listen to the way they view things ... then you'll see my point. Lastly, don't forget to give them treats for being of help.
Thank you for reading and have a nice day.
Nothing will be done unless we move…
Nothing will be done unless we move…
Because of a writing assignment, I decided to be absent from work in order to submit my task on time. I spent three hours of reading/researching for some ideas to incorporate in my writing.
After offering a short prayer, I commenced on writing a portion of a novel chapter. The feeling was awkward at first, but as I became focused and completely immersed with what I was doing, words began to flow with much ease.
I felt happy for seeing the blank monitor began to be filled with words, sentences and then several paragraphs, and although I had to go back once in a while to change something, I was nevertheless thrilled because the words and ideas just kept flowing freely…
After checking for cohesion and logic, tightening of ideas, word selecting, tense and spelling correction, I finally finished the thing I was writing in five hour time.
"Nothing will be done unless we move" is really a true principle. After having done some reading, gathering of ideas, or thinking as part of my preparation, next thing I did was to trust in my creative powers to assist me in forming, fashioning, and creating the ideas for my writing.
I've seen the truthfulness of this saying so many times in my life that whenever I am consumed with laziness or self doubt, I just commence working and trust in my creativity and that of the higher power's help to guide me.
No accomplishment whether great or small will be done without action. Even if we may go wrong at times, it is still best to do something. We can change anyway the course we are heading as we move along or review our work later.
If we wanna accomplish something, let us eliminate the causes of inaction which are:
self doubt, ignorance, fear of failure or the unknown especially if its our very first time to do something, laziness, fear of not being appreciated, even fear of trying due to low self esteem.
Let is realize that action is very important. Words may be powerful and pleasing to the ear and to the senses, but without action everything that we say will be in vain.
How can we overcome inaction then?
· have a goal in mind or a plan and don't forget to write it down - this will impel us to do something no matter what. There is a saying that if we fail to plan, we plan to fail. (and don't forget to set a deadline)
· have the self discipline to stick to your task, no matter how vague or disorganized it might be in the beginning
· remember the ants - one of the most industrious animals
· precondition yourself …refuel or recharge yourself first before getting into action
· accept imminent failure , neither be afraid of it. It is your passport to success...remember that things may be difficult but they can be possible or attainable with continued action.
Because of a writing assignment, I decided to be absent from work in order to submit my task on time. I spent three hours of reading/researching for some ideas to incorporate in my writing.
After offering a short prayer, I commenced on writing a portion of a novel chapter. The feeling was awkward at first, but as I became focused and completely immersed with what I was doing, words began to flow with much ease.
I felt happy for seeing the blank monitor began to be filled with words, sentences and then several paragraphs, and although I had to go back once in a while to change something, I was nevertheless thrilled because the words and ideas just kept flowing freely…
After checking for cohesion and logic, tightening of ideas, word selecting, tense and spelling correction, I finally finished the thing I was writing in five hour time.
"Nothing will be done unless we move" is really a true principle. After having done some reading, gathering of ideas, or thinking as part of my preparation, next thing I did was to trust in my creative powers to assist me in forming, fashioning, and creating the ideas for my writing.
I've seen the truthfulness of this saying so many times in my life that whenever I am consumed with laziness or self doubt, I just commence working and trust in my creativity and that of the higher power's help to guide me.
No accomplishment whether great or small will be done without action. Even if we may go wrong at times, it is still best to do something. We can change anyway the course we are heading as we move along or review our work later.
If we wanna accomplish something, let us eliminate the causes of inaction which are:
self doubt, ignorance, fear of failure or the unknown especially if its our very first time to do something, laziness, fear of not being appreciated, even fear of trying due to low self esteem.
Let is realize that action is very important. Words may be powerful and pleasing to the ear and to the senses, but without action everything that we say will be in vain.
How can we overcome inaction then?
· have a goal in mind or a plan and don't forget to write it down - this will impel us to do something no matter what. There is a saying that if we fail to plan, we plan to fail. (and don't forget to set a deadline)
· have the self discipline to stick to your task, no matter how vague or disorganized it might be in the beginning
· remember the ants - one of the most industrious animals
· precondition yourself …refuel or recharge yourself first before getting into action
· accept imminent failure , neither be afraid of it. It is your passport to success...remember that things may be difficult but they can be possible or attainable with continued action.
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